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November 2019 CAREGiver of the Month - Cary P.

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Cary Is in the Right Place at the Right Time for SeniorsNovember 2019 CAREGiver of the Month - Cary P.

Some seniors believe CAREGiver of the Month Cary Pate wears a Superman cape. In one instance, he wasn’t performing a feat for a client when he stopped a runaway car at a sprawling care community campus parking lot. In the right place at the right time, Cary stepped in and helped in a potentially dangerous situation.

While Cary was walking toward a dining facility to meet his 87-year-old client, he noticed an older woman trying to stop her car. She’d gotten out but left the car in gear. The car knocked her over and kept rolling toward a row of independent-care houses. As the slow-moving vehicle bumped up against a high curb, Cary saw his opportunity to stop it. The front wheels climbed the curb, and the car rolled to a stop on the edge of a thick lawn. Cary jumped in, thrust the gear shifter into park and called 911 for the driver, who was not seriously hurt.

The humble CAREGiver took his usual “aw-shucks” approach to the outcome. “I considered trying to get in it while it was rolling, but I decided against it,” he said with a wry smile. Cary, a twice-honored CAREGiver of the Month during his five years with the award-winning Home Instead Senior Care® franchise in Lubbock, is known for his amazing ways of turning around a difficulty into something good for his clients.

“I just try each day to give the clients the best day they can have. I get a lot of fulfillment and satisfaction from feeling as if I am helping seniors out,” said Cary, who joined Home Instead Senior Care in September 2014. “I see the challenges and understand what seniors go through. I hope only that someone will help me someday with the same understanding and patience. As I get closer to that time, age-wise, I have even more empathy. I can relate to the clients.”

Cary’s mind always has been in the “help mode” when it comes to his relationships. As a professional educator, he taught agricultural classes for eight years. He also was a roofing company owner and later a maintenance director for two senior facilities, in addition to being a home handyman who focused on assisting seniors with fix-ups and remodeling.

Recruitment and Engagement Coordinator Juanita Camacho said Cary clearly carries out the Home Instead principles of “Build Trust, Take the Lead and Share Your Heart.” Juanita said: “He is an amazing CAREGiver who goes above and beyond for our clients. Cary has a caring and compassionate heart, and he enjoys hearing the stories our seniors share. Cary likes to be outdoors, and our clients truly enjoy going out, maybe to have coffee with friends or just to see their land where they formerly farmed and raised livestock.”

Cary helps three regular clients. One has late-stage Parkinson’s disease and Lewy body dementia, is wheelchair-bound and can no longer speak. “The main objective with him is to get him out and stroll around to give him a change of scenery. When there is music playing somewhere in his care community, we go over there. When we see a group of people out playing dominoes, we head that way and watch,” Cary said.

“Just going out is something that breaks his routine and brightens his day. I try to give him something he can enjoy because his world is so limited because of the Parkinson’s and Lewy body dementia. He can’t walk at all. I’ve been with him a year.”

Cary spends 23 hours a week with another client, an 87-year-old man with dementia. Cary began assisting him about a year ago as the client’s first CAREGiver. “He remembers me now as ‘Corey,’ and I do not correct him. His dementia has progressed, and he’s more confused. When I am there, he still functions OK because I can gently direct him,” Cary said.

“In some ways, he’s still independent. He can shower, but I get everything ready for him and provide a standby assist. He has trouble with dexterity, and I shave him. He needs a lot of assistance getting dressed and with medication reminders.”

The client remembers his wife died two years ago and handles it well. “He wants to stay independent as long as possible. He has no other assistance other than from Home Instead. His brother and daughter handle management of his care, and I work well with them,” Cary said.

“His attitude is great, consistently great. He is very pleasant. We are good friends, and I enjoy working with him. His mobility for his age is good — most people at his age are affected more. He walks without a walker, and we try for good exercise. His daughter recently set him up with physical therapy, so he goes to an exercise class several times a week. He mainly just tries to walk, and it feels sometimes as if I am trying to keep up with him,” Cary said with admiration.

All Home Instead Senior Care CAREGivers are screened, trained, bonded and insured. For inquiries about CAREGiver employment, please apply online call (806) 281-4663. For further information visit Home Instead Senior Care , or to learn more about the company's services and how to become a CAREGiver click on our digital brochure. Please follow us on Facebook page.


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