Do you remember when giving the perfect Mother’s Day gift was easy? A homemade key ring perhaps, or a bouquet of papier-maché flowers. Do you remember how happy it made your mother, and how long she kept it?

 

As we get older, we tend to eschew such homegrown presents for bigger ticket items. A key ring becomes a cruise, those paper roses become the real deal. And while most mothers wouldn’t turn up their noses at such lavish and thoughtful gifts, many of them don’t treasure them any more than the homemade ones from when you were just a kid.

 

They may prefer such gifts of love even more now. That’s why we’re presenting five ways to give a Mother’s Day gift from the heart.

 

1.    Schedule a one-on-one girls’ night out: Sure, you might see your mother all the time, but do you ever find yourself always “doing for,” and seldom “being with?” Consider setting aside a date night with your mom: get dressed up and go to dinner, get mani-pedis, catch a show – anything to break from routine and do something you’ll both enjoy.

2.    Help with photo albums and scrapbooks: If your mom is like many of us, she probably has a stack of mementos and photos that she has just never gotten around to organizing. How about dedicating a day – or one day a month for however long it takes – to help her? Not only will it give her an excuse to tackle the project, but strolling down memory lane is so much more enjoyable when you’re with someone you love.

3.    Help her start a container garden: Whether your mom is a perennial green thumb, or this is her first go, container gardens are an easy-to-maintain way to bring some new life into the picture – and they can be adapted to any environment. All you need is a pot, some seeds or seedlings and a patch of sunlight to get started. For more tips, click here.

4.    Plan a Memorial Day visit: Sometimes seniors long to visit their deceased loved ones but can’t get to the gravesites – particularly if they’re in several different cemeteries. You can help by offering to be her chauffeur for the day or the weekend. Try to keep the mood from getting too heavy by encouraging your mom to tell funny stories about the deceased, or enjoying a meal at their favorite restaurant after the visit: breakfast at Uncle Murray’s favorite diner; lunch at the place she used to go with her friend, Barbara; dinner at Dad’s go-to steakhouse.

5.    Make being present your present: This goes beyond just physically being there to help, but actually committing to being mentally and emotionally present, too. We are always so distracted and rushed that sometimes it’s easy to let our minds wander or get impatient when we’re around someone with a quieter, slower lifestyle than our own. Instead, try to be in the moment when you’re with your mom. She will appreciate it and your own peace of mind will probably benefit from the calm.

 

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