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Chap Chats: Who Am I?

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Have you ever found yourself looking into the mirror, asking yourself, “Who am I, and why do I exist?” These questions aim to uncover our true identity; in fact, I believe that many of the challenges we face in life are the result of confused identity. In other words, we have a strong tendency to see ourselves differently than how God views us. Mirror.png

To illustrate my point, let’s listen in on a humorous exchange between a confused man and a dentist:

Man: "Excuse me, can you help me? I think I'm a moth."
Dentist: "You don't need a dentist. You need a psychiatrist."
Man: "Yes, I know."
Dentist: "So, why did you come in here?"
Man: "The light was on.”

The reason the man responded with such abnormal behavior is because of his confused identity. He really thought he was a moth. At some point in his life, he bought into the lie that he was something he really wasn’t; therefore, he was merely living and behaving in light of what he believed to be true about himself. The reality is our self-identity, more than anything in our lives, directly shapes the things we do as well as the people we become. This is why it’s so important for us to have a healthy self-identity.

Since God created us and knew all about us before we were even born (Psalms 139:13-16), I choose to subscribe to a God-like view of self-identity. Throughout the Bible, I see that God views me in the following ways:

  • Loved
  • Valued
  • His child
  • His masterpiece with a purpose
  • Designed for a mission
  • And so much more
Just looking at this list and knowing that this is God’s view of me gives me inner peace, strength and joy. Real transformation happens in our lives when we stop believing in and start letting go of our confused identities; instead, we should all seek to own God’s view of us.

My challenge for you today is, if you often find yourself asking the who-am-I-why-do-I-exist-type questions or if you just don’t like who you are becoming, strive to abandon your self-defeating views. Rather than cling to your confused identify, find yourself in God’s Word. (If you don’t have a Bible, that’s ok; simply search for “God’s view of my identity” on Google or your preferred search engine, and you’ll quickly see how God’s view differs from your own view.)

And, if you like God’s view of you, own it. Become it.

About the Author
As our Corporate Chaplain, Sheldon Miles serves as, what he calls, “an emotional and spiritual first responder.” His primary responsibilities include encouraging the weary, providing care sessions for the discouraged, and reinforcing Love (v) with our CAREGivers and support staff. 

When asked what Love (v) means to him, Sheldon said, “Love (v) is not about what you get to receive but about what you get to give. It’s about living your life and following the model given to us by the greatest Love (v) teacher who ever lived …” To that point, Sheldon cited John 15:13: “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down his life for his friends.”

In addition to advocating Love (v) to others, Sheldon walks the walk. He outwardly displays our eight Attributes of Love (v) in his daily interactions with our CAREGivers and support staff, who are invited and encouraged to reach out to him to discuss personal and professional matters that may be weighing on their hearts and minds, from marital issues and financial matters to workplace conflicts and even the loss of a client.

Sheldon comes to Home Instead with 25+ years of experience in the pastoral ministry, most recently serving at a local church in De Pere, Wis. He and his wife have two grown children, both of whom live out of state pursuing burgeoning careers. In their free time, Sheldon and his wife enjoy spending time together outdoors and staying active; in fact, Sheldon has competed in 12 marathons … and counting!


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