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Caregiving Is Ministry for Arnetta

“Can someone please try to understand me? I’m not a mean man as so many think, just so tired of being the way that I am (having suffered a stroke and unable to speak).Then one day, a CAREGiver came into my home. I grabbed her by the arm, and she looked into my eyes, which made me feel secure. She didn’t seem to be frightened, and she said everything is going to be OK ... I finally felt like someone would listen and care about the man that was trapped inside this twisted body without a voice. I felt like there was hope again.”
-- Excerpt from a free-verse poem entitled “My Voice Taken” by CAREGiver Arnetta Stokes.

For some seniors, each day is a repeat of the unimaginable. Physical and emotional challenges. Isolation. Alienation. Bewilderment. But there also can be a soothing voice and touch, and acts of kindness and prayer.

CAREGiver of the Month Arnetta Stokes relates those seniors’ stories through her observations in a free-verse poetry compilation called “Can You Hear Me?” Arnetta’s words engender a soulful spiritual perspective of what she is doing as a CAREGiver for the Home Instead Senior Care® franchise in Birmingham that serves southeast Oakland County, including Royal Oak, Southfield and Troy.

Arnetta believes her job is a ministry.

“I work every day with the attitude that God is watching me,” said Arnetta, who has been a CAREGiver for the past four years. “It’s just as if my earthly Dad is watching.

“I care for my clients and get to know them as if they were my own family. I pray for them, and I pray for myself, asking God to help me take care of them in the best way.”

Arnetta’s God-given talents are many, and she uses them in different ways. She is a licensed evangelist and an artist. For more than 30 years, she has been a graphic designer after studying fashion design and illustration at The Art Institute of Pittsburgh. She also has illustrated children’s books.

Asked why she’s a CAREGiver, Arnetta points to her faith. “I believe that is one of my assignments in life. I care about people and want to comfort them. If they want to talk about faith issues and are receptive, I have ended up leading them to Jesus,” she said.

“Listening to seniors is important. Sometimes, I am their only friend – one lady clapped whenever I arrived. They want you to take away the pain, which can be emotional or physical. Many times, they are afraid. I provide a comforting touch and pray for them.”

Clients, she said, are not just a paycheck. “You are helping a human being. They are to be treated the way God wants us to treat them, with love and dignity.”

Arnetta fell in love with the job, she said, because of her desire to want the best for people. She has been on an incredible adventure. On her knees next to a client’s bed in a care community, she prayed for the healing of bed sores. “A CNA called me a couple of days later and told me all of the bed sores were gone, and there were no signs of scarring,” Arnetta said.

Later, a client experienced the return of his hearing in one ear after Arnetta prayed over him. “Someone asked me if I was a faith healer. I said, ‘No. I just believe in the Lord. And He can do anything He chooses to do. It is up to us to believe. That client originally told me he didn’t believe, but I still prayed for him. Later, he gave his life to Jesus, and I was honored to speak at his memorial service.”

Through it all, Arnetta gives the credit to God because she simply wants to say and do the right thing for her clients. Accordingly, one of her favorite Bible verses is Psalm 19:14: “Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O LORD, my strength, and my redeemer.”

Home Instead CAREGivers, who are screened, trained, bonded and insured, provide a variety of non-medical services to help keep seniors independent. For inquiries about employment with Home Instead Senior Care, please call (248) 203-2273 or email Anne Monaghan at anne.monaghan@homeinstead. For further information about the company, visit or to learn more about the company's services link to a digital brochure at


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