There are many factors that can cause the depressed, stressed, agitated, fatigued, dreaded bad feelings that many people experience over the holidays. You need to know what they are about for you and there is no one universal answer. Pay attention to your specific issues and situation. It is important to realize that bad feelings are not the real problem. You are reacting to something that is not right and you haven't fixed it or resolved it yet.The holidays are supposed to be a time of happiness, good cheer, joy, and optimistic hopes for the coming new year. We are bombarded with reminders which can be a trigger for several unresolved issues such as past losses, unresolved grief, contrast between then and now, disapointment about now, contrast between images of holiday joy and reality of one's own life, and the sense of increased loss and isolation. Don't make yourself helpless and don't accept the role of victim. There is much you can do to make it better for yourself.If your holiday blues are a manifestation of the stress from all the extra demands of the holidays, do something to reduce the demands. Rethink how you view and approach the holidays. Also review your beliefs about what you have to do and the consequences of not doing what you believe you must do. Relationships change, everything changes.. .so talk about your traditions and gift giving habits with your family. If your blues are stemming from past losses, take advantage of the holidays to help you complete your mourning and finish your grieving over the loss. There are many different kinds of losses that can cause grief. All I can suggest is to remember the Serenity Prayer which is: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Learn how to apply these three principles and serenity will replace the holiday blues. And that's what it's all about!
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