Time to Talk?

This month, we have been excited to launch the 40-70 Rule program which is dedicated to helping adult children of seniors and their parents talk about issue related to aging before it’s too late.

The program gets its name from the ages by which experts recommend these conversations should have already started: 40 for the adult child, 70 for the senior parent. Recently, new research has found that, in a lot of families, these important discussions aren’t happening. In a recent survey, 34 percent of adults who participated are conversation avoiders. That is, they haven’t talked about any important end-of-life issues with their parents or children, or they have talked about just one issue.

We’re hoping the 40/70 Rule program will change all of that. At the heart of the program is The Action Plan for Successful Aging, which you can call our office at 541-330-6400 for, or you can preview here.

The action plan is an interactive guide to six of the most common conversations that seniors and their adult children need to have:

  • Living Choices
  • Financial Choices
  • Health
  • Relationships and Dating
  • Driving
  • End of Life

For each of these topics, the plan shows an ACT (Assess, Consider, Talk) approach, with step-by-step worksheets to help you and your family through the process.

We learned this was important because nearly one-half of adult children (49%) surveyed say there is still some information they would like to know about their parents’ personal situation, including their health, financial or housing care needs, so they can help them if necessary.

In other words, families know they need to have these conversations, they’re just uncomfortable or don’t know where to start.

We’re hoping that the Action Plan for Successful Aging, as well as the other materials we’ve developed for the program, can help. One tool that many have found useful already is this conversation tree, an at-a-glance way to quickly identify what your family’s specific issues are, and some quick resources to help you start addressing them.

As always, we’re here to help you through the process. For example, if your senior would prefer to age in their own home, as statistics show that 90 percent do, our CAREGivers can help ensure they are able to do so safely and independently. We also offer transportation options for seniors who have stopped driving and we can provide other local resources for professionals who specialize in helping seniors and their families plan for the future. Please contact us at 541-330-6400.


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